Are You Dating With Intention—or Just Bored? Take the 2-Minute Test
A quick 10-question self-check to help you understand whether you're truly ready for a serious relationship, or just filling time on dating apps.
Dating apps have made it easier than ever to meet new people—but easier doesn't always mean better. Many singles find themselves swiping, chatting and even going on dates without ever pausing to ask the most important question: am I actually dating with intention, or am I just bored?
This quick 2-minute quiz is designed to help you answer that honestly. Your results won't judge you—they'll simply give you clarity so you can date in a way that matches where you actually are in life right now.
How to take the quiz
Answer each question honestly. Give yourself:
- 2 points — Often / Yes
- 1 point — Sometimes / Maybe
- 0 points — Rarely / No
Grab a piece of paper, add up your score at the end, and read your result below.
The 10 questions
1. Do you know what type of relationship you are looking for? A serious relationship, marriage, companionship, or something else?
2. Are you emotionally available for someone new? Or are you still attached to a past relationship or situation?
3. Do you enjoy getting to know people beyond looks and messages?
4. Would you make time to meet the right person in real life?
5. Are you willing to communicate honestly about your intentions?
6. Do you lose interest when someone wants clarity or commitment? (For this one, reverse the scoring — 0 for Often, 2 for Rarely.)
7. Are you mainly using dating apps when you feel lonely, bored or need attention? (Reverse the scoring here too.)
8. Do you regularly swipe or chat without really wanting to meet anyone? (Reverse the scoring.)
9. Do you know your non-negotiables in a partner, such as values, lifestyle, family goals or faith?
10. Are you prepared to put effort into building a healthy relationship?
Your results
16–20 points: You are dating with intention
You have a clear idea of what you want and are open to building a meaningful connection. You are more likely to recognise compatibility beyond chemistry and casual conversation. Keep protecting your standards and your time—the right person is worth waiting for.
10–15 points: You are getting there
You may want a serious relationship, but there may be uncertainty, past hurt or distractions holding you back. Take time to get clear about what you want before investing in the wrong connection. Journalling, therapy or simply slowing down between matches can help.
0–9 points: You may be dating out of boredom
There is nothing wrong with enjoying conversation or meeting new people, but it may not be the right time to search for a serious relationship. Focus on yourself first—your hobbies, friendships, health and goals—then return to dating when you are ready for something real.
Why intention matters more than options
The paradox of modern dating is that endless options often lead to less satisfaction, not more. When every match feels replaceable, it's hard to invest deeply in any one person. Dating with intention flips that: fewer, better conversations with people whose values actually align with yours.
That's exactly why MatchByLove exists. We believe the best relationships start with clarity, honesty and genuine intention—not endless swiping.
Ready for something real?
If your score told you what you already suspected—that you're ready for a partner who takes dating as seriously as you do—we'd love to meet you.
Join MatchByLove today and start meeting Australians who are done swiping and ready for something real.