How to know if someone is marriage-minded

Not everyone who says they want a serious relationship actually does. Here are the signals that matter.

Green flags

• They talk about the future in concrete terms — where they want to live, how they think about kids, money, parents.
• They follow through on small things. Real intent shows up in calendars, not declarations.
• They are curious about your life, not just your highlight reel.
• They are comfortable with pace. Not too fast, not stalling.

Yellow flags

• "I'm not really sure what I want." (Months in.)
• Conversations that stay surface-level even when given an opening.
• Inconsistent availability with no clear reason.

Red flags

• Avoids any conversation about the future.
• Has been "almost ready" for a long time.
• Refuses to define the relationship after months.

A platform like MatchByLove for marriage-minded singles filters most of this out before you even meet.